I recently spoke with a friend who wears a lot of hats. In addition to taking care of her family and home, she also has additional responsibilities and deals with some difficult people. The buck often stops with her and there are a lot of decisions. When I asked her how it was going, she replied, “Ugh, don’t ask. I don’t have my [bleep] together like everyone else."
Wait, what?
My response to her was that most people don’t have it all together, they just seem or act like they do. I told her I admired her vulnerability and honesty.
Does it seem to you like you're the only one drowning? The only one who doesn't have it all together? If so, take it from me, you're not!
In Unstuck we talk about the fact that everyone is stuck somewhere; it may be the same place you are and it may be different. The premise of Unstuck is that we can learn from one another and hopefully feel comfortable knowing we are not alone in our struggles.
We’re all wearing a lot of hats and have a lot of responsibilities these days. We are parents, spouses, children of aging parents, employees, bosses, business owners, household managers, volunteers, and way more. It’s okay, in fact it's normal, to not have it all together and to not be juggling all of those balls perfectly.
What can you do if a ball drops?
> Pick it up and start juggling again
> Ask for help
> Delegate to others
> Vent to a trusted listener
> Look around and know you’re not alone
Deep breaths, my friends. Please try not to put so much pressure on yourself. You're doing great!